Now, as a self-confessed self-helper, avid student of the law of attraction, positive thinking & The Secret & a Nichiren Buddhist, I know that to bring about change you need to redirect thoughts & create new habits.
Telling yourself NOT to do, say or think something usually just makes you feed that thing more energy, time & gives your already overcrowded mind a newfound neurotic-ism to NOT want.
Example: DO NOT think of the colour RED. So what colour are you imagining now? Exactly. I have learnt that this happens because our sub-conscious doesn't know the meaning of NOT. All it responds to is the subject or focus of the sentence or instruction.
Put a mental stop sign to the "I'm going to be late/ Fuck I don't want to be late/ <insert yours here>".
Vivid visualisation & persistent faith is the key. This is the common link in all the texts I've read, seen, listened to or heard about on personal growth, success & victory. Be it breaking bad habits, eliminating the rotten fruits of your life, creating good luck, making money, finding love or achieving happiness.
You gotta look the part, walk the walk & talk the talk as if IT IS. NOW. I cannot explain the power & truth I've discovered in the saying, "Fake it 'til you make it".
Now, what I am having trouble figuring out today is what thought could I replace the "I'm not smoking" with, in order to actually stop smoking?
I've thought of "I only inhale clean air" but there is still pollution, "I am a non-smoker" but that is still considered negative (I think) & then "I now see smokes & feel no desire to have one myself" (but again the word no makes this sentence negative)....even the symbol is negative.
|If I'm anti-smoking, then I'm pro------- what? Oxygen?|
Help me please, reformed smokers
& fellow self-helpers!
Style Me Frenchy may be on the way to being a little less Frenchy and a lot more healthy. Hopefully.
Maybe I'll just save my smoking for Paris and red wine. Maybe...but man I feel like a cigarette, and dinner at a Parisian restaurant. Like this one that my brother Jamie checked in at on Facey:
|La Bonne Franquette|
And if all else fails, swallow this: